Dreading what feels like an inevitable domestic future with a man.
Or looking forward to an idealized version of it that resembles literally no m/f relationship you’ve ever seen in your life, never being able to picture any man you’ve actually met in that image.
You have every reason to be happy in your relationship with a man, but you just aren’t / everything is going really well, but something is missing and you can’t figure out what.
Being repulsed by the dynamics of most/all real life m/f relationships you’ve seen and/or regularly feeling like “maybe it works for them but I never want my relationship to be like that.”
Thinking you’re commitmentphobic because no relationship, no matter how great the guy, feels quite right and you drag your feet when it comes time to escalate it.
Going along with escalation because it seems like the ‘appropriate time’ or bc the guy wants it so bad, even if you personally aren’t quite ready to say I love you or have labels or move in together etc.
Or jumping ahead and trying to rush to the ‘comfortably settled’ part of relationships with guys, trying to make a relationship a done deal without investing time into emotional closeness.
Your relationships with men are devoid of passion.
Feeling like you have to have relationships with guys and/or let them get serious in order to prove something, maybe something nebulous you can't identify.
Only having online relationships with guys; preferring not to look at the guys you're interacting with online; choosing not to meet up with a guy even if you seem very into him and he reciprocates and meeting up is totally realistic.
Getting a boyfriend mostly so other people know you have a boyfriend and not really being interested in him romantically/sexually.
Wishing your boyfriend was more like your female friends.
Wishing your boyfriend was less interested in romance and/or sex with you and that you could just hang out as pals.
Thinking you’re really in love with a guy but being able to get over him in such record time that you pretend to be more affected than you are so your friends don’t think you’re heartless.
After a breakup, missing having a boyfriend more than you miss the specific guy you were with.
Worrying that you’re broken inside and unable to really love anyone.